Marriage has become an increasingly expensive affair for families, even when done simply. Among the highest expenditures is on jewelry, followed closely by event management, including photoshoots, makeup, hall bookings, decorations and catering. Each of these items costs several lakhs. While the rich may afford such extravagance, it is disheartening to see that even common families are following suit, often at the cost of financial stability.

The growing trend of lavish engagements is adding to this burden. In essence, families are now bearing the expenses of two weddings. In the past, when the families of the bride and groom agreed on a marriage date, it was considered final. The engagement was a simple affair, a mere formality. Today, however, engagements have turned into mini weddings, which ought to be avoided.

Unfortunately, few voices from among the modern-day reformers or renaissance figures speak about this issue. There is a worrying trend where, despite an engagement, many marriages fall apart before the wedding. This is especially true when couples engage in long conversations via mobile phones, often leading to breakups. If such issues arise among adults, what would happen if engagements were arranged for children?

The Supreme Court has called on Parliament to amend the law to ban child engagements, as they infringe on the fundamental rights of children. While child marriage is prohibited by law in India, the practice of child engagement continues, escaping legal punishment. This loophole allows ceremonies conducted under the guise of child engagement to effectively lead to child marriage. Sadly, such harmful practices are still prevalent in northern states like Rajasthan and Gujarat and must be abolished.

Child marriage robs children of their right to enjoy childhood and has severe mental and physical impacts. By forcing children into early commitments, they are denied their right to choose a partner and are burdened with adult responsibilities even before puberty. Child marriage also violates children's rights to education and health. Girls are often left isolated, while boys are forced into early adulthood, bearing responsibilities far too soon.

The government must prioritize not just the punishment of those involved in child marriages but address its root causes to prevent it altogether. Poverty and lack of education are the primary drivers behind this practice. In some cases, families resort to child marriage due to religious beliefs, a practice that, although more common in the last century, is now largely confined to smaller areas. However, this remnant of a bygone era must be eradicated entirely.

It is also time for educated parents to reconsider the costly and often unnecessary luxuries associated with modern weddings and engagements. By setting an example, they can help shift societal norms, ensuring that both adults and children are free from the pressures of lavish ceremonies and harmful traditions like child marriage.